The Blame Society: It’s All the Rage (Unfortunately)

I Googled the term first. It’s not really out there. I should write a book. But I’ll start with this:

“The Blame Society: The Real Threat to Civilization”

Or something like that.

I get so sick of it – and not because I deal with the flamers, trolls, venters and other folks who abuse free forums, and scream ‘censorship’ if not allowed to spew (I tell them, ‘Go to Rants and Raves.’)

No, I don’t blame them. (Get it?) Well, not entirely. One frequent poster who rankles my nerves refers to most folks as “sheeple.” Prone to want to blame someone or something — politicians, Greedy Big Business, and of course, today’s big Blamee, Illegal Immigrants — for the problems of society.

Taken to the extreme, it seems these people are saying, “If everyone just thought like me, the world would be perfect.”

It almost doesn’t matter whether they believe it. The venom factor in today’s society is so high, it’s approaching global warming status. (Oh my, there’s another fine controversy. It reminds me of abortion, or the Middle East, or name any war – a never-ending, no-win blamefest.)

Compromise has never been a dirtier word. Why discuss when you can argue? Why listen when you can make others listen? Why solve problems when you really succeed by stirring up our most base passions to … blame the other side for all of our problems?

It is so maddening, so frustrating, so exasperating.

So who do we blame for this state of affairs? Do we look in the mirror, or smash it and use the broken pieces to cut our competition?

I’ve said it before — I’m a moderate, the right-wing talk show host’s worst enemy. But I listen to left-wing talk show hosts, and they make me mad, too. I don’t WANT msnbc to be one-sided, as if to counter-balance the apparent (to them) one sidedness of Fox News. Yes, I believe CNN tries to go down the middle of the road, and probably gets villified for doing so.

In a no-win Blame Society, our favorite hobby is to tear down those who disagree with us and send money or love notes to those on “our side.” To just wait until the next election to throw the bums out, to send a message that… what’s the message again? That we want it go back to the way it was before, under “our party’s” time of rule?

Times are tough, and that breeds anger and fear — and the powers that be want to channel that anger and fear to achieve their aims. Whatever happened to thinking for yourself, to calm, rational discussion, to being open to the notion that the other side has a point worth considering? No, that’s now seen as a sign of weakness, a chink in the armor, a chance to prevail over the weak wafflers, the Jimmy Carters, the … Obamas, of course, in some eyes.

A plague on both your houses? Vote for None of the Above? Where does that get us? Does a third party or independent candidate just hand an elected seat to the other side? Is that what it’s come down to?

The Blame Society. I blame it for our ills. I blame those who propogated it for our inability to reach consensus any more. I pray for a way to move beyond the blame game, to find some structure, online, on-air or in person, to realize that negotiation, give-and-take, compromise isn’t hopeless Pollyanna kumbaya. It’s our only hope of survival.

It’s a mindset as real and even more valuable than the one we’ve allowed ourselves to be trapped in today.

Stop blaming. Start listening. Realize anyone who sells you a simple answer knows better, and is playing you like a Stradivarius.

Take the best of all positions and mold a new one. Sell it through the benefits, not the fears.

Who’s with me?

Long past time, yet again

Wow, well maybe this fresher summer-y WordPress theme will encourage me to get back here and say hi.

Hi!

We’ve settled in at the new Internet Broadcasting-run KTVZ.COM digs. Still some lingering issues (when isn’t there in technology?) but overall, pretty cool.

Took a week off (OK, as usual, semi-off) from work – actually got to the coast with Deb, but hey, the B&B dropped breakfast (huh?) but had dandy WiFi, so I could keep the site up to date. Was fun, and quite an accomplishment in our new Land Without Credit Cards. (Scary, but true – beats the false sense of security they provide. I think;-)

And I owe Ted Taylor, one of our newest reporters, a debt of thanks – both for taking over for me that week and allowing me to be my typical invasive self, from home, not letting him just … run the Website. (Though there was one crazy afternoon where having four hands rather than two getting stuff on the Web was a godsend – there are days.)

Deb is busy with both her job processing bankruptcy claims (lots of irony in that!) and her paralegal studies (since when is business algebra something a paralegal needs?) and getting routine As – so proud of her! But when you read in the paper of reporters having to go through foreclosure and move to a new job … the scariness continues.

Oh, and then there’s the cats, and a recent issue of … a wet ‘present’ left behind on the bed, so now we have to close the bedroom door during the day, costing Salem his sun-until-he-bakes time (and he trill-whines to make sure we know.) A boy has got to be able to sunbathe at times, so … I just try to use moderation in how much he can. Nice vet says he likely was dehydrated (surprise to the guy who cleans the litter box!) so Deb feeds him wet food 2x a day (always been a dry food cat) and he goes for it like the junkyard cat he is;-)

So all in all … hanging in there, like the rest of the world. How are YOU doing?

Please let me know you’ve read this by leaving a comment or two. Once that happens, and I get a wee bit of encouragement, maybe I’ll get around to posting here more regularly.

Pepsi gets it partly right – almost

First, a couple funny, yet sad 911 calls locally: Last night, someone in Metolius called 911 to call help for a baby owl that fell out of its nest and couldn’t get back up there. Then, just now, a sheriff’s dispatcher – Crook or Jefferson, couldn’t get over to the scanner to check – said a mother called, saying her 7-year-old son refused to go to school and wants a deputy to stop by. “Scared straight” at 7??

OK, on to the point here – well, two points, one is please try http://prewww.ktvz.com and let me know what you think! Launches next week, oh boy!

Second point, behind the headline – I’ve taken to, as a small hobby, using consumer products’ Websites to share issues/sugestions. I finally did so the other day with Pepsi after getting exasperated how the new, thin-plastic (hey, I appreciate the “green” efforts to reduce waste) Aquafina bottles almost ALWAYS spill on you when you grasp the flimsy bottle tight enough to untwist the cap.

Today, I got a pleasant reply, saying they have “taken your feedback seriously and are actively working on improvging the stability of the Eco-Fina bottle, while maintaining the lower environmental impact.”

“We sincerely apologize for any problems you’ve had, and ask for your patience as we make the needed improvements,” it continued. “Thanks again for writing and sharing your thoughts with us,” said Margaret Corsi, a “consumer relations representative.”

Fine, nice. I wanted to thank her for the note.

I can’t. The reply address? noreply@pepsi.com.

Booo. It’s not just that “news is a conversation” now – all product interaction with customers and consumers can and should be conversations – and she just cut me off. Well, her mega-giant company did.

Too bad I can’t thank her personally.

Follow through, folks. Don’t stop a valuable link between a faceless megacorp and a lowly customer. Feed it, water it, tend it like a garden. Make a friend, make a fan! Don’t leave me hanging.

Wow. Talk about spread thin.

No posts here in close to 3 months! I should be ashamed, but I’m not.

In the world of Facebook, Twitter, our Ning forum, heck I’ve even played with Google Wave – not to mention my ‘real job,’ which includes fending off the anonymous nasty comment posters at KTVZ.COM – who needs to blog any more?

But I shouldn’t go so long without sharing. So let’s see how the pic I posted at Facebook looks – of the mean ol’ storm laughing at us as it approached (spotting things in the clouds is as old as man – but from space is funner!;-)

Face in clouds
Is it a friendly face or scary? You decide!

Just got done shoveling a couple inches of crusty snow. Have lost roughly 10-15 lbs. since a troubling July health screening. Have had, um, financial difficulties at home, but lots to be thankful for this Thanksgiving – I and my wife both employed, in decent health, still holding onto our home, unlike so many folks who don’t deserve the crud thrown their way about ‘buying a house they couldn’t afford.’ Whose to blame for the mass delusion?

Oh, and I got a new PC last month! I wrote previously about blowing a hole in my 4-year-old HP PC’s wireless keyboard. Years earlier, the on-button broke, and had been jerry-rigged and hotglue-duct taped back in place. One day, it got stuck. Again. Argh! And my kind sis-in-law Dianne helped make an upgrade to a new, 64-bit HP PC happen. I don’t miss the wireless keyboard and all those batteries. It’s spiffy – and upgrade to Windows 7 went well, but now, alas, IE 8 locks up on occasion again, and after settling back in, boot-up still takes forever. Oh well;-)

Anyway, hope this finds you all well and ready for more snow and holiday stress. Oh yeah, I’m signed up for stress management newsletters from that great site, About.com. Breathing is key, as is not blowing up among co-workers. I’m still working on it as my mentor Chuck Heil back in the Media Production Center at John Adams HS had on a lapel button, PBPGINFWMY (Please Be Patient, God Is Not Finished With Me Yet.)

😉

Time keeps flying

Wow, over a month since last post.

Guess I haven’t had a lot wild things to say that I can’t say through Facebook and Twitter, but I do want to point out a fun program I just started using, so I can see my work/personal Twitter accounts at the same time, and my Facebook one too – Seesmic Desktop. A bit of a resource hog, but works pretty well, despite being version 0.3. They’re coming out soon with one that works within the browser, which will be better for many.

However, I can’t post news to the KTVZ page in Facebook that way, because the Facebook API hasn’t been opened up to that area yet. Bummer. Will be interesting to see how that develops.

Just ended a week semi-off (hey, you know the Web – demands constant feeding) and it was nice to get more sleep, got to Portland area for a day, etc. Hope you-all are doing well;-)

Is blogging endangered, like G.I. Joe’s?

Okay, there’s a provocative title, if only for those in the ‘Pac-NW’ who grew up with GI Joe’s being a regional success story.

I’ve been meaning to write a piece of basically, ‘Will Facebook and Twitter kill blogging?” But now, first let me tell my G.I. Joe’s story, now that the stupidly-truncated named ‘Joe’s’ will be fading into liquidation history.

My first real job was at the original G.I. Joe’s on North Vancouver Avenue, a long but not killer-for-a-teen walk from my mobile home… no, trailer home on Hayden Island (Jantzen Beach) in north Portland.

I worked the summer of ’72 in the original part of the original G.I. Joe’s – a quonset hut where, some 20 years earlier, Ed Orkney began selling military surplus. By the time I worked there, it had grown into your basic clothes, housewares, etc. kind of store, and I worked in housewares, toys and bikes. (Believe me, you would not want to ride any bike I ever put together, if you valued your life.)

I remember working up in the musty dusty storage area upstairs, lugging things up or taking them down, then being all hot and sweaty and asking a customer if I could help them, imagining them saying, ‘Yes, please stand downwind.”

I remember how IMPOSSIBLE it was to get the store’s linoleum floor un-slippery after a groovy lava lamp fell and smashed open, spreading that goo all over.

I remember using my terrible handwriting (thenand now) to fill out these forms to transfer items to other stores, or request them from other stores, and dealing with getting signs made for the little holders on the racks and shelves. It’s really my only retail experience – a few years later, I’d be neck-deeper in journalism, an intern at UPI almost my entire senior year at Pacific U. in Forest Grove.

I remember some nice bosses I had, without of course rememebering their names, and I also remember the discounts on merchandise, and for me, for albums. Buying Elton John’s ‘Honky Chateau’ that summer of 1972 (I was Class of ’73 at John Adams High, a story in itself some time.)

(And I remember, on one long walk to or from work one day, a sleazy driver pulling over and saying, in a wimpy-creepy voice I’ll always remember, “Would you like to have sex?” Uh, no. Ewww. Shiver…)

Anyway, flash-forward to now, and Joe’s (losing the G.I. was so … dumb.) goes bankrupt. It hadn’t been special or different enough – I hadn’t been in Bend’s for years, ever since the dumb move to wall off entrances to stores from the Mountain View Mall (now the all-outdoors, lifestyle (but only for Californians) shopping center called … what’s it called again?

So time passed Joe’s by, as folks went to the places where cheap prices rule, or trendier climes like REI beneath the smokestacks.

How does that relate to blogging? Let me try to connect the unconnectable, dot-wise;-)

I’m not blogging as much because I’m Facebooking and Twittering more, and there’s only so many hours in the day.

Blogging is a somewhat lonely enterprise. Facebook and Twitter are far more social – you are amongst friends, among followers, listening as well as talking, laughing and not just trying to make some “important point.”

No, blogging won’t go away. (Neither will journalism, though boy is it going through some rough times). But I feel I’ve neglected this little corner of cyberspace. As I have Newsvine, which I do enjoy but get tired of the yahoo factor at.

That reminds me – our comment system at KTVZ.COM now, much like Newsvine, is built around the news, pretty much (though folks could link to anything, I suppose.) But we’re probably going to finally launch the High Desert Forum at KTVZ.COM, using the latest version of KickApps, to allow folks to talk about things OTHER than the news (well, along with the news), to finally be able to post photos of the weather, wildfires, their kids Little League – whatever they’d like to share with a broader audience, primarily local.

See? Now when I post here, I have to try to catch up by cramming 4-5 things in the same blog entry. Maybe the 140-character limit of Twitter is the ultimate personfication of ol’ Bulletin editor Bob Chandler’s favorite reminders: “Omit needless words. Prune for vigor.” Followed by my usual whine to an editor back then, shoehorning so much to say into so little space: “But I don’t have time to write it that short!”

So I’ll stop there. Hope all’s well with all of you, and come looking for me or us (KTVZ has pages/feeds too) at Facebook or Twitter. I’ll be the one trying to find the Magic Answer to monetizing either/both for the station.

Wish me luck;-)

Doctor my eyes (the Hallelujah Chorus)

OK, real-life drama is always the most interesting.

Here’s mine.

Around 12:30 yesterday, in the newsroom of course, no more stress than normal, I thought I’d looked out our nice new windows at a sun reflection or something.

Why elese would I be seeing spots?

But soon, they morphed into some pulsing designs of various trapezoidal traiangular stuff along the edges of my vision.

Uh…. oh….

I was talking to the ladies in the room, working on their shows, telling them about it but trying to not freak them out or have them freak me out.

I’d put off eye doctors for far too long, in part because… well, occasional flashing thingies in a darkened room, especially as I got up for the day.

For years – even before I heard Dr. Doug Nelson (former Bend schools supt.) tell me, “If you see flashing, get thee to an opthalmologist!”

So I was scared, to put it mildly.

Fortunately it started to pass, then morphing into some odd issue along the edges of my eyesight.

Okay, freak out time.

Called my darling wife Deb, told her calmly there was something wrong with my eyes and I need to see an eye doctor, SAP.

She had an appointment set up for me within two hours. And by the time she’d called me back to tell me, the issue was gone. But not the fear, of course.

Wake up call!

So I told my bosses, they said get outta there. But of course, I was fine, so I kept working. Deb showed up early, I left late. Working, working. (I’m so pathetic;-)

Anyhoo, to make a long story short, I told the nice lady optometrist everything – they numbed and dilated the eyes, did their tests and used the most glorious word I could ever hear.

Normal.

Whew!

What I’d had was an “ocular migraine.” (I’d never heard of that.) One of the joyous fun possibilities when one gets older. I’m very nearsighted, so I have long eyeballs, and… well, the funny, even amazing thing is, after 15 years of far too much staring at computer monitors, my prescription was… basically the same.

That’s right – I’m finally getting new glasses! Nowhwere near as big – they don’t make em this size any more, I hope – but quite fashionable – bronze, lightweight, etc. etc.

These glasses have stood me in very good stead for a decade-plus, even when the nylon straps stretched so much the lenses would fall out and I had to pry/pop them back in.

I’ve been ribbed by many (especially you, Joe;-) about the corny old glasses for a long time.

Pity it took a big fright to get me to do what needs to be done. (Men can be like that. Women too, I suppose.)

The new me, coming soon to a face near you, well, me;-)

‘Miracle on the Hudson’ – next stop, the Potomac

I love dramatic good-news stories, and they can never happen often enough.

But sometimes they are also miraculous in their timing.

I’m sure I’m one of many bloggers who are looking at what is about to happen, and just happened, and trying to make some grand connection, as in, “Here’s what I’d say Tuesday just after noon if I were … him.”

So let me give it a shot… at the risk of focusing far too much attention on this connection and beating an analogy to … well, you know:

We are here today in what some might call a miraculous turn of events.

And others would say we worked hard to make it here, so it’s only logical.

Can logic and miracles co-exist? Of course they can.

They sure did aboard U.S. Airways Flight 1549 last Thursday afternoon.

A group of people who had nothing in common but where they were and a desire to fly where they were going were aboard that plane, thinking it was just another day.

At the helm, a pilot of much experience and training, well-respected, on a cold but clear day, going through the checklists, which no doubt don’t have on them “check for big flocks of Canada geese in the area.”

Flying, to some, is an act of faith, as is living. To others, it’s just a thing to get you somewhere.

But this day, this plane and those birds intersected in a path no supercomputer or aviation expert could have predicted with any certainty.

Those birds hit those engines, both of them, and blew them out – both of them – a flight attendant said it was as quiet as a library.

This at 3,000 feet over the Bronx.

The pilot with all that experience had a good clue exactly what happened, and his options were limited. The air control tower made suggestions – ones he rejected, knowing the great danger they would pose to folks on the ground, not to mention the people he was tasked with flying safely to their destination.

And so, he took the least unthinkable path – to the water – with so little time, he couldn’t throw the handy ‘ditch switch’ and seal the bottom of the plane.

No time – less than 4 minutes from bird hit to … well, we all know the story.

In a busy place where cameras follow seemingly every bird or Hudson River tugboat, a plane became a boat – and 155 souls on board, many if not most praying what they feared might be their last prayer, lived to tell the tale.

By all accounts, there was little if any panic aboard Flight 1549. Ferries and boats came to their rescue, and thankfully didn’t have far to go. The river, normally busy with boats, had been clear when the plane came down. There was a jolt, but no worse than some rough landings many of us have experienced.

The plane, full of fuel, didn’t burst into flames. It didn’t sink. It’s crew kept a well-intentioned passenger from opening a third, back door that would have let the water rush in.

A lot of things went right that day – and to separate the divine from the proper procedures, training and what one must make sure to add, the best in many everyday Americans would be missing the point entirely.

We are divine in our everday lives, if we just stop to think. It shouldn’t take a plane falling from the sky in miraculous fashion to remind us that God wants us to fly again.

Now, let’s see how much of what we learned last week fits what we’re here for today.

Let’s imagine, just for a moment, that we all are passengers on that jet plane – a plane that no doubt has seen it’s ups and downs, but is surely still airworthy – and unbenknownst to anyone snoozing through the familiar emergency lecture at the start, pointing to the exit doors, yadda yadda yadda – they’re about to learn it’s seaworthy too – in a pinch. That those seats as floatation cushions really do come in handy once in a while.

But many of us, probably most of us live our lives for granted – until we don’t.

Sort of like the millions of Americans, many of whom no doubt took their jobs, their homes, their everyday debt-saddled existence for granted – until they couldn’t.

So, when our airship of state gets into hot water, the people who live to criticize, analyze and place blame knock the pilot, the crew – everyone but ourselves. That’s no way to safely land an airplane, or get a country called U.S. of A. through some in-flight turbulence.

The doomsayers say we’re gonna crash, we’re gonna die. Others pray. And the folks up front try to stay calm, cool and collected as they choose between several not-so-great options.

They don’t need a perfect option, just one with the best odds of survival.

When they pulled that plane out of the Hudson over the weekend, they bottom was all torn and shredded – shredded metal on a plane full of fuel. Imagine what one spark would have done.

Miracles do happen. We can never be reminded enough.

But sometimes, just sometimes, God helps us make our own miracles – through training, wise choices, prayer and working together – as a bunch of people on a plane, who didn’t know each other from Adam or Eve.

But those who don’t believe the hand of God was helping put that series of blessed coincidences in line, like a line of lights on a runway, are fooling themselves.

Folks, we face some really tough challenges in the coming days, weeks, months and years. My critics deride me as the self-annointed ‘messiah’ who thinks he has all the answers and can talk any problem to solution.

But you, my fellow Americans, are smarter than the critics. You’re not looking for holy redemption from the White House – just someone who puts your interests ahead of the special ones, who does the very best he can – who is willing to change course and bear the wrath of those who claim that’s a wishy-washy flip-flop – who puts all his training and skills and, yes, oratory to the best use possible. And who levels with the American people, even if it means answering a reporter’s nasty question with nothing but the truth.

My friends, I don’t know if our bumpy flight the past couple of years has killed our engines, but I know we can soar again, to new heights, if we just believe in each other, and that with God’s will, we can overcome our troubles. It’s about having faith that the pilot will do what he can, but knowing it’s not all in his hands, or in God’s, but in each one of ours, as well.

A man who was elected to this job four times is one worth quoting, about fear being the enemy. Because fear begets fear, but hope begets hope. There are no magic solutions to our problems, be they education, health care, the housing or financial crisis. There is only hard work, listening to good people making strong proposals, and taking the best of those ideas and testing them out.

Ladies and gentlemen, this is your new captain speaking. It’s an honor to serve you and to know that, with the help of our fine crew – and all of you – we’re going to make it through these storm clouds and, with God as our co-pilot, fly higher than ever before. 

So get those cameras ready – we have some mighty fine sights to see, up ahead, through the clouds.

Welcome aboard. Oh, and one more thing – sorry, but no more free in-flight lunches. We never could afford them. We were just fooling ourselves.

The party’s not over – not by a longshot. We just can’t make excuses and duck out before the check comes any more.

Sparkling snow and Christmas cheer

A musing on Christmas Day of how things really aren’t all that bad – and a prayer it’ll stay that way.

I really don’t mind shoveling – it’s some of the best exercise I get! And I’m getting a lot of it lately – we have to be at, oh, 1-2 feet of snow in past 2-3 weeks, which you just knew was gonna happen after a too-warm Christmas parade.

Despite the challenges at work and my wife’s challenges in finding work, I and Deb have lots to be thankful for this year. For her, the move from W. Virginia to Bend by her older sister Diane was the biggest present of all. And I’ve got to admit, she can make chocolate goodies almost as good as Deb’s. (Hmm, navigating a safe way to put things;-)

Anyway, I think anyone who has a good job after the travails of the last half of 2008 has to be mighty thankful – and I am. I’m also thankful for my online friends, and those who come to KTVZ.COM without intentions of stirring up trouble but engaging in civil, often lively conversation. I try not to dwell too much on those who only make accusations and stir up trouble. I resolve in ’09 to spend even less time trying to defend myself/our station to those who clearly are just picking fights. If their comments are out of line, they are gone. If not, I’ll try harder to bite my tongue and let everyone else have their say, as a good moderator does. (I’ll never ignore a question that isn’t a putdown in disguise, though;-)

Oh, the title. Yes, when I was shoveling the driveway, in today’s blue-sky sunshine, the snow was just so … sparkling. Desperate me, I took it as a sign that just maybe, things will get better in 2009, and that the doomsayers will be as wrong as they were when they kept predicting doom earlier and it didn’t happen. We have mighty challenges, but – you can call be naive – if we just put our minds to it, I think we can head off Depression 2.0. I pray so.

Meanwhile, I might not be able to convince the powers that be that we should give over 2-3 minutes of airtime to just showing the gorgeous beauty of a snow-flocked High Desert when the clouds part on a blue-sky day, but … don’t let it pass you by. While you’re shoveling, rushing about or driving with fingers clenched on the steering wheel, watching for the yahoos going too fast who could slam into you … be sure to look up and around some times. The world is gorgeous when it’s snow-covered like this – don’t miss out!

And Merry Christmas to all of you. Here’s to a great ’09!

I love a parade (but my feet hurt)

Wow, what a warm Bend Christmas Parade! At nearly 60 degrees when we turned the corner from Newport to Wall Street, so likely a record.

As I told folks along the way – when I wasn’t waving or wielding a video camera to record Christmas greetings from the crowd – we’ve had colder 4th of July Pet Parades than we were today.

And we have. Not that I’m complaining, mind you. It was nice to still feel my feet and toes when it was over. But I still need new comfy hiking shoes, the old ones had me limping home.

Here’s the whole NewsChannel 21 gang before the parade began, on a “sparkling day” that even Bob Shaw would find hard to top;

Hail Hail, the gang's all here! In our spiffy new NewsChannel 21 attire
Hail Hail, the gang's all here! In our spiffy new NewsChannel 21 attire

So I hope you all had a swell Saturday too, full of lots of ups and few if any downs. I started the day writing about a truly nasty crash on the Bend Parkway that killed two young people. No doubt it was an awful, dark Saturday for those two families, no matter how warm and bright the day.

So it’s yet another time to count your blessings.